you will make a mistake.

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damn....

 

I messed up.

 

we were playing a little, inside the living room, after a nice walk up and down the block , when he suddenly started to bite(he is going on 12 weeks on saturday9... instead of getting up and leaving likE I usually do I got frustrated(I KNOW, I KNOW)). and told myself I would not leave untill he calmed down...

 

big mistake.... he never really did... and the more excited he got the more I knew I had made a big mistake... it was not intentional but I felt a need to show him who is boss and who owns the space.

 

eventually after 17 minutes he sat down for a moment and I gave him the "free comman" (mostly for myself)... I knew I had gotten myself into a bad situation, but backing out would make it worse... I know I will think about this for weeks to come... guilt. you know?

 

for a few mintues after, he was looking at me like "what the h*** is this guy up to..?" so I rectified it by calmly sitting down on the floor with some cooked chicken. he immideatly came over and I petted him while he ate it...

 

 

my point is.. I suppose we all will mess up some times, but don't let the guilt kill you, you'r dog will forgive you if it is just that, a mistake, and not a routine.

I feel shi**y... so so shi**y(excuse the language)

hope I am not the only one who is humane and make the requisite human mistakes out there.

 

 

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I've had at least 1 (sometimes as many as 5 at once) doberman in my life over the past almost-40-years now, and guess what?  I STILL mess up sometimes.  Just like you said, though....count it as a learning experience.  It happens.

Aint it nice how dogs forgive like nothing ever happened?  Wish people were more like dogs in that respect.  :)

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Tnx DJ's dad... I really feel bloody terrible...

 

 

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Relax.  The more you try to be better, you more you succeed.

I'm pretty sure I've made ALL the mistakes that are possible in the first year ... and I'm the only one that knows.  And despite all of it, my boy loves me anyway and still likes to make me look good.  Gogh will do the same for you. 

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Oh dear.. how awful that feels.. we've all been there.. and we all learn from mistakes.

I doubt that you did any damage.. and now you'll be better equipped for the next time.. and yep.. there WILL be a next time.

It's so easy to suggest calmness and low keyed authority and until it happens to you and you're facing those little piranha teeth.. looking at the scars from your shredded pant leg, shoe, socks, arm... you just don't know what you will react to.

 

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So on the same topic what do I do??? Bane is 4mths and I understand teething and normal puppy behavior. Well all he does it bite and scratch. If he isn't in his kennel or on a lead you can find him being drug by lex's boy parts or clamped onto one of his hind legs.  Lex is pretty passive and doesn't yip or bite back.  Me and lex are literally covered in scabs.  We have a living room devoted to nothing but safe things to chew on (ice cubes, kongs, bones, frozen rags, teething specific toys) just about every shape, size and texture.  Now he has decided he is a battering ram as well and will knock lex of his feet.  It's hard to stay calm but assertive, we are doing well but man how long does this last?

Ya know, if there is a mistake to be made, I've made it. There's an experience factor that comes with training dogs. You can read all the books, go to all the seminars, work with all the trainers and still make a faux pas. The beauty of it is that most dogs are very forgiving when it comes to your mistakes, if you realize them. Although training it right the first time is the most advantages method for the dog, just like the dog, you learn from your mistakes.

Don't let your frustrations bleed down the leash. Leave on a good note, take a breath, have a cocktail and come back when you're chilled. Don't feel bad, the dog doesn't understand that emotion.

Gunny 

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Hi.

 

there are tons of more qualified people here that can answer this for you, but since it was on a tread I started and our dogs are about the same age here are my two cents:

 

1. is he getting enough exercise? (i.e walks, do short sprints with him, teach him to play catch.(sometimes, when it is raining or too cold for him I play catch with him in the living room wchich he loves.)

2. For biting, which he does, but is getting a little better every day: I do a shart Tsst sound first, which is my dissaproving sound and then try to get him to sit and then play/praise treat. (the idea ios do teach him what to do, and also make him forget he was jumping/biting) then give him a toy, if not, I give him a sharp NO, if this don't work, ten minute time out in his crate...

3. Also, remember, at htis age he needs A LOT of sleep, is he getting enough? I have learned that my guy just forgets all the rules when he is over tired, I crate him and within a minute or two he is down.

 

4.For biting jumping, leave the room? this worked with my previouse dog a lovely APBT. but then make sure the room is puppy proof.

 

5. toys, too many at one time makes no sense, three or four at a time, then take them away and give them back a few days later, rotate them, to keep it interesting.

 

6.discipline: ALWAYS, make him sit to get anything... food, treat, toy, get up on the couch, put on leash, pet.... you're the boss. when he jumps have a high value treat (cooked chicekn for example) stand tall, don't make eye contact but just waive the treat in front of his nose, untill he lets go then give it... a few times of this then mnake him sit before he gets is, then make him sit longer everytime... and remember training sessions at this age... about 5 minutes maybe ten is enough. set up training scenarios where you know he will jump bite, and use that time to trach him what you want.. maybe make sure the other dog is not around when you do that?

 

7. Play stops, and he gets seperated from the pack if he bites hard or jumps and does not sit instead.. he'll get it... eventually....

8.some days are better than others. I read everywhere that you do this or that and then "H'll soon get it " or  "he will quickly learn" what they don't specify is what the hell that means.... I tell you weeks and weeks, it all depends... patience!

9.I cannot say anything about the other dog, as I do not have two.

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I will say my post was at a moment of complete frustration. Bane has bout a perfect sit, come, house, down and go get it commands :). His toys are definitly rotated. I think in reading all the posts, the biggest problem was.......I had lost my patience.  This morning when my husband let him out of the kennel, he ran in from outside, jumped up on the couch and snuggled in to my side and simply passed out. It was like a baby sleeping on my chest again :)) I took the moment and realized just like our two legged children, these times will soon be long gone and I'll want the puppy moments back!!