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I'm going to post something I used to send my patients who had lost a loved one. We've all lost our beloved dogs and from an infinite amount of reasons. It doesn't matter why they're gone, but gone they are; and only that huge hole in our chests that used to house our hearts is left.

Mourning


Weep what you must weep, not only for this loss but for all the other losses you have sustained in this ...life.
Surrender into the memory of what once was, and can no longer be.
This winter of your life will pass, as all season do.
Stay in your season of winterness as long as you need be, for everything you feel is appropriate.
There is no right way to grieve-there is just your way.
It will take as long as it takes. It is important to be ever so gentle, kind, loving and giving to yourself right now.
And to let others be ever so gentle, kind, loving and giving to you.
Remember how deserving you are of gentleness, kindness lovingness and giving ness.
No one ever said it was easy so let go, let be, let life do what it is supposed to do.
Perhaps you feel you are the only one in the universe.
But out of your loss is an inter connectedness with all humanity. For you are one with everyone who has ever mourned.
When you live fully, your vulnerability takes you through the shadows of winter where you feel you may never see the sun again.
To cease living fully because you fear the winter shadow is never to see the sun at all.
Judge not the appearance of this loss.
Behind the darkest cloud of the dreary winter chill is springtime begging to burst forth.

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Lady Kate you are a wise woman, thank you that was a beautiful poem.

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Thanks Lady Kate! That would be something good to give to my hospice patients! Well, their families. What do you do? You said you had patients.

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That was beautiful.... my eyes started welling up...

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Cuddlebug.. I too was a Hospice Volunteer and I managed a Critical Care Drs. office when I lived in the states.

Now I'm a writer....(Sofia is my muse.).My  book It's a fantasy of sorts aimed toward the Young Adult Market.

Life With a DoberDiva

Many of the chapters are real life adventures and I 'tried them out' here on the Forum.

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Thanks Kate, it's a rainy day here and I was already grieving again over Goofy's loss and Levi and TJ the whippet; it was so appropriate since Levi died in 1997, TJ Whippet in 2003 and Goofy just last Sept. and that then carried over into grieving the loss of the collie I DO NOT have right now. So the whole poem hit me hard and I sit here crying and crying - but - that's a good thing.......thanks.......

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It's so important to grieve. and it's so personal.. I get upset when people say: " Okay.. get on with your life".

I don't care if it's a loss of a child, a parent, a beloved pet or a bad hair cut.. we ALL go through the stages of grief and it's up to us AND ONLY US when it's time to stop.. Some never do. That's okay too. Dying ( as Cuddlebug will attest to) is one of the most personal things we'll ever encounter.. and we all die a little every day.

Tears... the best catharsis. Shed them loudly and proudly!!

 

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Interesting that I found this today, I have an uncle that passed away this afternoon from a long illness. He lived a good long life to the age of 80. Over the past 6 1/2 years I have dealt with many close family losses and it has been very difficult. I have been known to have second sight of sorts or visions I call them that allows me to either see or sometimes talk to those that have passed on to inform me of death to come, it is not revealed who just that it is coming. I have learned to live with it for it is God's gift to me.

For those that work in hospice I applaud you, it is to me one of the most difficult jobs to have and you do it with so much love and care for the family and it is so appreciated. The loss of my dad to cancer has been the most difficult of all things and yes sometimes I still cry. We all know that we must die but we are never prepared when it happens no matter the situation.

Recently my sister lost her cat of 16 years and decided to adopt/rescue a kitten, but the kitten she chose was ill. We were not allowed to adopt her until she was in good health. After numerous phone calls and much confusion I found that she had passed away. I was devastated, I never even got to hold her but I felt the pain of loss for a kitten I wished I could have saved.

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Oh so sorry to hear about your uncle and the kitten that you wanted to add to the family so sad when they come in bunches like that......my sympathies on your losses......