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I miss my boy!People tell me I need to get over it and move on, you should be glad you had him which I am and I don't ever regret getting Mack but I thought we had more time together he only turned 5 when I lost my baby me an him was best buddy's where I went he went.I need to vent and I hope other Doby parent's understand.The first time I saw him I fell in love!He was 5 weeks old in a swimming pool with 10 brother an sisters he was so thin an I knew if I left him he would die he was gave to me cause he was a runt didn't weigh 2 pounds boy was I a proud momma!He slept in a play pen till he was 4 months if he sneezed wrong off to the vet we'd go everybody said I fretted to much over him.At 4 month's he was nuetered course his ear's were done at 7 weeks.From the time he was 2 monthes I had him in the pool he loved to lay on the float till he got to big for it,yes my boy grew up Boy was I surprised 34 inches tall and 110 pounds what happened to my runt!If one of my other kids got his toy he'd come cry to me till he got it back yes he was spoiled rotten but on the other hand he was well behaved,slept by my side of the bed and had to be covered up every night and if the blanket came off he would hit the side of the bed with his foot till I reached over an covered him back up!One day he bumped the door knop with his nose said I need to go potty mom, I let him out and when he came back up on the porch I noticed right away something was wrong he was acting funny, the next day I took him to the vet that was the beggining of my nightmare and the end for my boy, I did not agree with the vet's opinion by the second visit but unbenounst to me it was already to late the new vet said his heart was bad and we can try to medicate him.needless to say it didn't work on a thursday morning he got bad I called the vet and told them he was worse they said they were busy to bring him in an leave him and they'd look at him when they had time I wouldn't do it I knew it would worry him so at two that aftrenoon in we went I took a blanket cause he couldn't stand for long they weighed my boy 88 pounds god he lost so much weight in the three weeks this illness took!This is where I will never forgive myself the vet took x-ray's an told me she wanted to keep him overnight that she would put him on intravenis fliuds and pain meds and see how he was in the morning in my heart I knew he was dieing but my head said maybe this will work,so with a lot of tears I kissed an hugged him an told him I'd see him in the mornin.Needless to say my Macker didn't make it through the night and I left him there to die alone god how do I live with that the guilt I feel is beyound belief do you think he wondered where his mom was when he needed me the most!Please tell me how to forgive myself!I brought him home and buried him next to Stormy and sit with him every day wishing I could go back and change the decision I made that day but I can't will it get better for me I pray it will!

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I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of Mack. Losing a pet is like losing a part of your family. I don't think anything anyone says or does will make it easier for you to cope.   These things take time but, crying and venting will help you through the process.

Don't beat yourself up about not being there when he passed, it was probably best for you and what he wanted. From what I've heard, most animals like to be alone during that time anyway.

Try and stay strong and remember he's in a happy place... Doggie Heaven :)

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Hes on the other side of Rainbow Bridge. Look it up, I promise it will help.  I will pray for you.

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Thank You,I know about the Rainbow Bridge and oh what a reunion it will be!I know I will meet him again on the other side but lord I miss him so much,I miss his kisses and He would walk beside me cause he knew I had a bad leg so I could lean I him for support, he was special to me and soely missed! 

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Dear Sweet MackersMom. My  heart aches for you and I am so sad in reading your heartrending story.

How lucky the two of you were to have each other even if was for such a short time. He was beyond loved, he was cherished.

LaBella Vita is right you know, most dogs prefer the dignity of passing away alone. We do tend to humanize our babies a little too much at times.. makes us happy it does.. they don't think the way we do.. I promise they don't.

But.. you take as long as you damn well please to grieve.

Mack wouldn't like it though. ( here I go humanizing again.. I am the worst when it comes to that) Pleasing their people is what Dobermans live for and if he knew you were heartbroken, he would be sad too.

Thank you sharing such a lovely tribute. Run free and fast dear Mack!!

 

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 Lady Kate,Thank You Hell there go the tears again!You made me fill better.You are right he knew I adored him!I was adopted by a wonderful Doby boy named Hoss he was rescued from a puppy mill abused and starved he saved my life he just doesn't know it yet!The night before Mackerboy died he went into the laundry room and laid down and was crying which he had never done before it broke my heart I got him up took him to the spare room and got him in bed where he put his head on my stomach and he settled down,I told him he would be ok, we slept that way all night and you know the rest,if I could of took his place god help me I would have,but we will meet again and lord what a reunion! 

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 My heart goes out to you ....losing a furry friend is SO hard. We just lost our 6 year old to copper storage hepatiitis and it was awful...hang in there. 

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It's almost impossible to say goodbye to our babies and just as impossible to not, at some point, feel guilty about Not doing something or doing something we wished we hadn't; you know things like why did I not take 'em for a ride that day, or why did I fuss at 'em when they made that mess by chewing their toy to pieces all over the room. But the worst is when the vet doesn't catch something that we think we should have, but we are not trained vets but we still think we should have caught it, I had that situation last september. I had a collie named Goofy lived with me for 12 out of his 13 years and at age 2 I knew something was not right, but all the years of vet checks and complaining that he had issues, (and the vet i had is a very very intelligent vet with cutting edge equipment and training but even he missed it), and Goofy died suddenly from a stomach tumor that was cancer and had been growing all those years unknown to any of us. I beat myself up every day for not forcing more tests etc. but I have to ask myself - would Goofy have wanted those tests or would he have preferred to be free to stalk the neighbors behind our fence as they walked by etc. I think Goofy would have preferred to have lived the way he did and to go out the way he did. It is terrible to feel the guilt and for some reason we just can't stop ourselves from going to that part of us.

Please don't feel guilty you didn't know, and at some point we have to trust our vets to know and do what is best for our animals. You used your gut instinct and got a second opinion and helped your Mack cross over easier than he might have. I feel your pain at not being there when he crossed as I am always with my babies as they cross - I have had two leave this world without me and it takes a long time to come to terms with not being there, but try to remember that he was comfortable and it was quiet and peaceful and having worked in a vet hospital I can say that the employees gave him alot of love as soon as it became clear he had crossed over. Compassion is a part of the day. He was not alone - he had you there in spirit and he had his own animal guardians caring for him - he knew you were there. The most important thing is that he knew he was loved during his life and it is obvious from your stories of him that he knew that and he returned the love and then some. Honor his life by remembering how loved he was and how he made you smile, grieve but always come back to those smiles and see his happy face and know that he is still with you anytime you want to talk to him he will be there to listen. He may have crossed over but he is not gone he is just in another dimension. My heart goes out to you as I am still grieving over my beloved Goofy and it's almost 9 months since his passing which is almost impossible to believe - it seems like yesterday.........everyone here understands the pain of this loss........share all you want......

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm crying as I'm reading your story of your boy and his last days. It is obvious your love for your dog from your words and how much you care. I know you are reliving your decisions the last night wishing you could be there to hold him in his passing, that in itself shows just how much you loved him. Rest assured that he knew that.

YOu did what was best for him and made the best decisions you could with the information at hand. Dont listen to anyone that tells you that you need to get over it. Those people do not understand and have never probably loved a pet as much. You grieve as much as you need to, everyone is different and does so in different ways. I hope that when the pain is not so great that you will be comforted in the wonderful memories that you and Macker made together.

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 I want to Thank All of you Doby lovers each in your own way has made me feel better,I wish I had found this site sooner it is wonderful to have so much support and understanding, only people like me who have loved  our baby's and lost them truely understand what it's like to greive so deeply!For all who have lost your Baby's I'm sorry for your loss I truely understand!Ok here is a funny memmory of Mackerboy!Where I went Macker came along my husband and I went fishing at a friends pond they had big bass in it and cows in the pasture,he would act so brave when the cows were at a distance but if they came up to investigate he'd get between me an the pond and peek around my back at them an here I am swatting them with my pole we both ended up in the water till my husband scared them off!We were catching some small bass so we would throw them back  so they could grow up well Mackerboy was takeing this all in my husband had caught a Big bass and just tossed it up on the bank a few minutes later he went to get it an it was gone  we thought what the heck he throwed his line back in an I watched Macker, Rick caught another one throwed it on the bank Macker promptly went over gently picked it up and put it back in the water! I laughed so hard after that we had to put the fish on a stringer or Macker was putting the fish back in the water!One of many good memory's of my Boy!

thats a great story, he sounds like he was extremely smart and quite the character.

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He was!When he was little he was sooo mean I guess he had to be the day I went an seen him he was so little he couldn't get out of the swimming pool an the lady throwed some big chunk dog food in it and of course the puppy's were hungry and attacked it like it was their last meal an Mackerboy bales right in there snaping an snarlin at the others to get his share but it was to big for him to eat that was when he stole my heart an I left there with him.But when he grew up he was my big sissy and I loved every 110 pounds of him!Your dogs are beautiful , thank you for listenin to me go on about Macker it really helps I'm still crying but I also smile when I remmber the goofy Lug.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it can be so hard to lose a pet and I'm dreading the day I lose my Chevy, even thinking about it is making me misty eyed. You take all the time you need to grieve. My friend just lost two dogs on the same day, a 15yo boxer and an 11yo boxer/pit mix. I got her this set of wildflower seeds to make a memorial garden. It will come back every year to remind her of her beautiful babies. I'm getting her a memorial stone bench for it as well.  Maybe something like that would help you?

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thank you and the bench is in place faceing his headstone!

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I love the stories about Macker.  He sounds like the perfect Dobe. I also had the perfect Dobe and I lost him 5 months ago. I still am feeling his loss and I think I always will.  Dont be ashamed of your grief because as everyone her can tell ya, we get it. We all love our dogs and we dont care who knows it. Remember all of the good and smile everytime you think of Macker.  He earned it. Take care and who knows, maybe there will be another Dobe that will steal your heart.

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I love memorial gardens it really is a great way to find peace and feel closer to those that passed before .......

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Thinking of you. Hope your hanging in there :)

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One day at a time,some day's are better than other's,the last couple a day's been a little rough I miss him so much! I have fell a couple times an he's not there to support me like he'd been doin so I shed a few tears pick myself up an hug my other kid's.I wish it wasn't so hot here I'd load up my horse an go to the mountain an trail ride but Mack alway's went with me so that will be different,when we'd show up there the people that didn't know me an the dogs would groan as my three got out of the truck but after a couple day's would come to my camp an say what wonderful behaveing dog's I had, didn't have to leash them they would stay with me.I'm ramblin again sorry thank you for thinkin of me still upright an above ground!

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No reason to apologize, Its good to let it out :) Sorry to hear about your falls, I hope your OK!

Time is the best thing to heal the pain.

Stay strong, Keep the memories close to your heart, and remember that Mack wouldn't want you to be sad. :)

 

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 I know your right.Just being sad, his grave finally settled an this weekend I fixed it all up planted canus plants behind it an put pretty rocks around the edges an sprucein it up for me, he could care less probabley!Your Boy Rex is so handsome and he looks a spoiled as Macker was an just as loved I loved the picture with the pacifier made me laugh!Thank You So Much was much needed!

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That's awesome :) Now you have a nice spot to visit him anytime!!

Thank you, he's very spoiled.

As for the pacifier picture, he found it while walking, picked up (just like in th pic) carried it all the way home. We pretty much had to pry it out of his mouth!!!! Such a goofball!!

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Mackerboys mom - my deepest condolences on your loss. I wish I could say there will come a time that you will not miss him, but you always will. While over time it will lessen, and the hole in your heart will shrink, it will never go away. It is a price we pay for loving creatures that are relatively short lived in comparison to our lives. However, we get the reward of the joys of their time with us as you have related.

Yes, another Dobe helps, but they will never replace a predecessor, they just make their own way in your heart. Windy was my first Dobe and I got her at the age of four months (1982-1989) and lost her when she was not yet 7 years old. Fortunately I had Hans to help me with my grief and he was my companion for almost 12 years (1984-1995). Each is unique and each leaves you with wonderful memories that we pay for with tears when they have left us.

Do not blame yourself for not being their when he passed. They are very private and want to be alone anyway. Perhaps the passing of my Red will give you an example. He was diagnosed with lung cancer in Dec, 2010 and the vet and I thought he would be lucky to survive 3 months. I had him for more that six months afterwards. His last night was at home and he was fairly lethargic. When I got up to go take my shower and go to bed, instead of following me as normal, he stayed on his pad in the living room. When I came out of the bathroom, he was on his pad in the bedroom. The next morning he did not wake me at 7:30 as he normally did to go outside, and I was fearful that he was gone. But he was still with me and went out with Princess to do their think. I fixed their food bowls and went to let them in, but only Princess came in. Red was laying under the oak tree behind my deck. I fed Princess and went out to see him. He was definitely in distress and I went in to change my clothes and prepare to take him to the vet. When I went out 15 minutes later, he had passed. I went back in, changed clothes again, and with the tractor, buried him out back with 6 other Dobes who have lived with me here.

Two months later an unique opportunity came to me to acquire another red male puppy from a member of this forum, and although I did not plan to do so for many more months, it feld right. There are a lot of similarities between Red and Jake (now 9 months old), both red males, and both curl up and lay at me feet in the evening. Both like to kiss, but there are a lot of differences as well. I am glad I have Jake, but I miss my Red as well. As long as I remember him, he will still be with me.

I will leave you with this. Another member of the forum posted it when I lost Red:

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rgreen4,Thank You that was a beautiful poem.I know it will get easier in time and I have plenty of photos an a few video's of Macker which I can't watch yet.I guess I'm selfish  if we have to put them to sleep we get to say good bye he may have been ok with it but here goes the selfish part I feel cheated,that day I took him to the vets he didn't want to stay but noo I wanted one more try one more chance to have him with me a little longer,he just turned 5 the week before he died I needed him just a little longer!An my adopted kid is an awsome boy and the two are polar oppisits I know I'll never replace Macker he was one of a kind so everybody tells me, an Hoss saved me cause I was grievin myself to death we are good for each other and already inseperable, they both have a special place in my heart,when I go out to Mackers grave Hoss goes with me an sits quietly by my side and waits with me till I'm done.Thanks for the kind words they are much apreciated.

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Well tomarrow is 4 month's Mackerboy since you left me,I didn't think I was gonna make it without you I was ready to crawl in that grave with you Big Boy but a lot of these wonderful people helped me thru some rough times and I do have so many memory's like the time the hen hatched out her chicks and you wanted to play with them she took off after you flogging the hell out of you and you was so awkward and you fell over your own feet and went a rollin head over tail I took pity on you an rescued you from that big bad hen or the time it snowed an it was your first time to see it you made me laugh so hard and thank god I have it on video,what I wouldn't give to wrap my arms around you and hug the heck out of ya.But I imagine I feel you in the breeze and at night sometimes I still feel you bump the bed so I'll lean over an cover you up cause your cover slipped off or the time the turtle came across the driveway and you couldn't figure out why that rock was movin!Or you lazin in the pool on your float I have that picture to as long as I'm alive you will be too!!I love an miss you Mackerboy!!  

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Dearest friend,

I call you friend because we are all friends here, united with one common purpose: Our furrbabies past, present and future. I cried reading your story and cant help but admire your courage to share this with all of us. I commend your true and continued love for your Mack and I know he knew that till the last of his days. There is no doubt in my mind that this is painful, as I have lost beloved pets in the past. I must say that I agree with Kate: take all the time you need and want to grieve but dont blame yourself.

The comments are correct about dogs wanting to go in peace and out of our sight, and I feel it is because they want to keep us from remembering them that way and instead leave us to cherish the beautiful memories of better times. Running and jumping, drooling on us, and just being there. My grandmother had a cocker spaniel for several years. He was the family dog and we loved him like if he was one of us...in a sence he was. When he became ill from old age, we worried and tried to be there for him and not lose sight of him. He was never away from the house or us kids, he had never left the yard, and was always around. One day he was not in the yard and we went looking for him everywhere. Our neighbor called my grandma to tell her that he had walked to the other street and layed down in the alley. That is where he passed. Since then, I have had this understanding that it is what they prefer to do to keep away the pain of seeing them pass...although deep down nothing can.

Stay positive, and cherish the most beautiful memories left behind to you. That is the best gift Mack could have given you because they are with you no matter the years and no matter where you are..and NOTHING can take them away.

Much love, prayer, and strength,

Mo, Zo, Zelda, & Karma

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 Mackerboy it's comeing up on 6 monthes soon,as you know I got you another angel for your grave to help watch over you.I'ts about time to go camping and it won't be the same, when we'd go for our walk's and the little dogs would come runnin out at you and you'd hide behind my back for me to save you from them vicious little thugs and you a peekin around my hip to see if they left yet and everybody laughin at you cause you was so big and afraid of a weiner dog!Remmber I'd tell them you was just watchin my six!But yet if a big dog came to camp you was a sendin them packin!Ahh the good times!                       Mom 

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Dearest Mackerboy's mom,

   I know your heart aches, my first doberlove died without me and I felt guilty wondering the same thing, if he thought I had abandoned him. But when I remember that special connection we had I know he knew how much I loved him and I have come to believe he closed his eyes that final time dreaming of his head on my lap with joy in his heart as he felt my hand on his head. My broken heart would not let me get another doberman for a long time but then God sent me Rocket. He is not the dignified gentleman my first dobie was, more apt to try to make me laugh but the love in those eyes is the same. I can never replace my lost love but I have learned to love again. Most especially in the case of a dobie, it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Can't say it doesn't still hurt but I would not give up the joy he brought me and all those wonderful memories. I'll be praying for comfort for you.

rgreen4,

   The poem is beautiful, it speaks volumes to me.

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Dear Mackerboy's Mom,

   I know how you feel. We just lost our dog 2 weeks ago to a type of cancer. It  seems really hard to move on but i guess we must. Our dog was 12 years old she was a beagle mix. I am going to get a Dobe in the spring of 13 and i still have our 13 year old lab with me. He kind of helps ease the pain but he is no spring chicken either.

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Rocket mom,thank you I never thought of his passing that way,I miss him so much, He was like yours dignified and Hoss is the class clown their personality's are so different thank god,he's not Mackerboy but I wouldn't have it any other way he saved me litterly,Dobys are just special.                         Blackjack I am so sorry for your loss no matter the age when they die it is still hard If I could change one thing it would be that they lived longer.        Dodie & Hoss    

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I'm new on here so i'd like to say high to everyone!

I lost one of my boys 10 months ago he was 7, like you I felt guilty because the vet diagnosed Rooney with a chest infection when he had DCM and cancer.  I wasnt happy with what the vet said but took him home with anti biotics.  For a long time I blamed myself for not using my instincts and questioning the vet, I felt like I took him home to die and that I had let him down and hadnt looked after him properly.  Realisically though we are not vets, and I know I did the best for him that I could at the time. 

I used to wake up in the morning not wanting to get out of bed because I didnt know how I was going to get through the day without seeing his face.  Take time to grieve, although the pain never really goes away you learn how to deal with it, not a day goes by when I dont think about Rooney but I focus on the happy times when he made me laugh or when he was being cheeky. Altough you didnt have him as long as you thought you would I bet he had a happy life, some dogs are not so lucky.

I still have Rooneys brother, his name is Bullitt. I found a lump on his tummy 2 days ago so I took him to the vets the vet found another lump, he had tests to see if they are cancerous, and I am waiting for the results, keeping my fingers crossed he will be ok, not ready to lose Bullitt, he is still only 8, and like Rooney I love him so much.

I am crying again after reading your sad story and thinking about my own, but one thing I know for sure we have and had very lucky dogs to have people like us caring for them and giving them a happy,safe and loving home.

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Sam, It's so good to meet you here, I only wish it was under more positive circumstances.. I can only imagine the pain and fear you must be going through.. I will add Bullit ( and you) to my prayers in hopes of a good outcome. Please let us know..

Kate and Sofia

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Welcome Sam and so sorry to hear your story.....I will be keeping a happy thought that the lumps come back benign do keep us posted......and post pics of Bullitt when you can, was Bullitt names after the movie with Steve McQueen???

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Thank you for your kind replies.  Here is a picture of Bullitt and yes he is named after the movie with Steve McQueen. Hopefully I will get his results back by Monday/Tuesday of next week.

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Bullitt is gorgeous and I will also add him to my prayers.  Its so hard to lose a pet under any circumstances.  I just thank god that we as people dont give up on our pets after we have to say goodbye. Im glad that we go through the pain and loss again and again in our life time.  Simply because there will always be Dobermans or other dogs that will always need homes. Its just sooo hard when you become so emotionally invested. I really do wish you the best, and Mackers boy your in my prayers too.

 

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Wow Bullitt is a handsome fella!!! Hope to hear some results from you soon.....still keeping my fingers crossed and the prayers agoing

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Bullitts results came back all clear, they were Lipomas and apparently common in older dogs,  Sooo relieved.

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Sam:

OMG!! thank you so much. Like so many of the Forum Members here, this is the first place I come to in the mornings and your much hoped for report is wonderful to read. I can't think of a better way to start my week.

Sofia has lipomas as well.. ( although she demands that we crop all her pictures so they do not show.. LOL) Doc has said they're benign, and the same thing your vet told you, they are quite common in ummmmm more  mature Dobermans. As you know La Diva is very sensitive.

Love the picture of Bullit.. He is such a good looking DoberDude.. Now you can relax and HAVE FUN!

smooches to the Pooches

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Sam here I am late as always am so glad to hear the tests were good news!Glad to have you on board!I am sorry for your loss and I totally undestand your pain am so glad you do not have to go thru that again so soon we do love our kids don't we!      Dodie & Hoss

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Those of us who have had Dobes any length of time know we go though this, and saying good bye is so tough. But, the only way to avoid the pain of loss is to never have them in the first place, and then we would be so lonely and deprived. The pain of saying good bye is payment for all the love and affection we have had with them.

One of the reasons I usually have two is that I know that the time will come when I will have to say good bye, and I have the other to consol me. This last time, though, I think I had to consol Princess more as she really grieved when we lost Red. One of the reasons I got Jake only a few months later was to give her a companion as well. It was the first time she had really been alone, as she went from having littermates to have Uncle Red and then only me. Now she and Jake are best buddies and wear each other out. They both like to curly up in my lap but I try to keep it one at a time.

Each one will take a piece of your heart with them, but they will also leave the good memories and a piece of their heart when they leave. You will see something and instantly be reminded of them. Don't beat yourself up over losing one, especially to DCM and to cancer, for typically we can only make them comfortable and wait. I was fortunate in that I had Red for more than six months after the diagnosis, for with all the others it was a matter of days or weeks.

What counts is that we take the best care of them that we can and love them while we are blessed with their presence. For those who have lost one, when the time is right, think about adopting. There are so many that are currently awaiting loving forever homes. DRA currently has 11 shown on their website with two of them with adoption pending notes. So far they have adopted out 28 Dobes to new homes. As great as puppy breath is, my next one will most likely be an adoption.

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Amen to that!            Dodie & Hoss

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 Well Thanksgiving was a day to give thanks but also a few tears were shed for this was my first Thanksgiving without Mackerboy,lord I miss him so much but on the other hand am so greatful for the time we had,my family tell me he left me because he knew Hoss needed me more and that he wanted another to benifit from my love like he got from me so here's to you Mackerboy Alway's in my heart and forever missed, Love Mom

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awwwww, it's hard I know this was my second thanksgiving without my collie hard to believe.......christmas will be hard too as Goofy loved to wear the ribbons and bows off the packages......my heart goes out to you, it always hurts no matter how long of a time passes.....

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Yes the pain is still there, it was a year since I lost Rooney last Tuesday a sad day for me and I shed a few tears.  I was blessed to have Roon and will never forget him.

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Oh sorry for your loss of Rooney, seems like alot of us here have losses at this time more than other times.....makes it hard.....

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Well, Mackerboy it's comeing up on your 6th birthday and a year since you left me,the pain has eased some for me but god I miss the hell out of you big boy it seems like yesterday you was hogin all the tennis balls and hideing them in your bed so Sam couldn't find them,and we have not went fishin since we took you last it's just not the same without you puttin them back in the water,I miss you thumpin my side of the bed to cover you up cause your blanky came off and you rattlein the windows when you saw a squirrl outside and when the horses got to runnin and bucking and you runnin along the fench tellin them to stop that,Momma keeps callin Hoss Mackerboy she miss'es the hell out of you too and keeps sayin she will see you soon,and when it stormed outside and you and all of your 110 pounds would try to crawl up on my lap which didn't work of course,I could go on and on but I just wanted you to know you are in my heart and I love and miss you big boy,till we meet at the rainbow bridge.       Mom 

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@mackerboys mom, I understand the pain very well, I lost my black and rust baby back in 2006 due to cancer at 14 years of age.  I still get teary eyed when I think of him and it has been almost 7 years.  Heck, it took me 6 years before I could even bring myself to get another Doberman.

Always keep him in your heart and don't worry about what others say, it is okay to miss a loyal friend and fur baby.

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Oh the annual passing date what a sad day, each year it is ever present and to be at his birthday just adds more sadness to it.....know that I will be thinking of you, when was his birthday?? I looked through all the posts and didn't see that info.....place a flower at his headstone from Ben and me  and give yourself a hug from us too.....

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His birthday is March 16th he passed March 24th,we didn't get to celebrate it like we always did Thank You Taisin.      Dodie  

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hi

 

i am from hull uk and have just lost my baby she was 5 on jan the 11th ,we were taking her awalk and she went to the floor i ran to her and saw her eyes gloss over she rolled on her side and then died ,i gave her mouth to nose and cpr ,she came back and then went again i kept doing this but couldnt get her brething again ,i love her so much ,i cant stop crying ,it feels like i am so alone ,

i can understand how you are they are our lives ,she was the best girl ever ,better than any over dog i have ever meet ,her name was tara ,

love

 

ruth her mummy

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I am so sorry Ruth,it's like looseing a part of yourself I know and how horrible for you,she knew how much you loved her please don't forget that,I know words right now won't help .You are in my thought's and prayers,  Dodie & Hoss    

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Oh Ruth that is horrible, an at only 5 how sad....such a short time to have her in your life.....at least you knew how to give the cpr/mouth procedure on dogs, kudos for that.....so sorry to hear of your loss too.....

Mackers I will light a candle on the 16th and keep relighting it through the 24th  know me and mine are here for you.....