Should I be allowing this or is he being too dependant?

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I know that our dogs are "velcro" dogs, but how much is too much?

Chico is very much always either with me or one of my boys when we are home. He loves to be close. If we are sitting he's at our feet. If we are on the bed he puts his head on our leg or an arm (so endearing). He is rarely ever too far away, but don't get me wrong-he does go off on his own to do his exploring and he does do his own thing here and there. It just seems that he prefers to be nearby.

My question is this and this may seem silly, but here it goes: Chico sleeps in my room on the floor on my side of the bed. My 4 year old sleeps on the other side of the bed. If I get up in the middle of the night to go the bathroom (sorry if this is TMI) Chico will get up with me and follow me into the bathroom. He will sit there with me until I reach for the TP (again sorry if this is TMI). Once I reach for the TP this seems to be his cue and he'll go lay back down.

Is this normal or healthy? Is there too much of a dependency here or is this OK? It doesn't bother me. I think it's fine- I just want to make sure I'm not allowing something to go on that shouldn't. Do I need to make boundaries or is this perfectly OK?

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I really do not know! 

Dexter will jump at the bathroom door till the lock snaps back and he can open the door. He will then stick his head inside and watch what is going on. If someone is in the shower he does the same... he will stick his head into the shower and watch. 

He is free to roam around the house, but if he does not have access to all of us (a closed door) he will complain.

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I found it! I knew this was posted here somewhere.

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@cynfully~~  Love it!!

I've always heard this and from reading so many threads re: the same.. seems perfectly 'normal' to me.

@ Michele, you're a wonderful DoberMom.. Chico is an awesome boy and just wants to be sure you're using Charmin as it is 58% softer and much more absorbant..( Lol)

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Phew!! Glad that this is fine!

DextersMom, Chico is the same way! He will actually lay in the bathroom until I am out of the shower.

Now that I think of it- we don't usually have company, but when we do he does allow them to have privacy. I guess he just does it with us...LOL! (Good thing!)

Cynfully2,

Thank you for the picture! I love it and it only validates that Chico is not doing anything that I should be concerned about. :o)

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Cynfully - that picture is the first thing I thought about!  Glad you found it.

When I had three dogs, they ALL came in the bathroom with me.

It was a little crowded, but I was a captive audience.

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Perfectly normal. Axel from day one has been by my side. He stays in the bathroom when Im showering or getting ready to go outside.  He then is constantly circling through my legs when we go outside. Its okay now at 4 1/2 months, but we will have to work on stopping that behavior as he gets bigger. 

 

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Our 9 week old Jake follows me into the bathroom and sits there looking at me, sits outside the shower door with my 2 shiztus and waits for me to come out.  Years ago I had a female dobe, she would actually come into the shower sometimes, I guess I was taking to long lol.. She too wood sit in front of me in the bathroom, she came in the bed, all 100 pounds of her would lay on me on the couch she truely thought she was a lap dog and there no way you could convince her otherwise.  I would try to keep her off the couch, but she would slowly back herself up and end up with her butt on the couch back legs on the floor then slowly start the lean until she was laying on your lap...

Enjoy Chico, there is no other breed that will love you the way a dobe does.  This is his way of letting you know he loves you more then anything and can't stand a moment away from you.. :o)

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Cynfully2, I love that pic...  It says it all..

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Lady Kate, LOL @ making sure I'm using Charmin. It would seem as though that's what he's doing..hahaha :o)

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My male dobie did the exact same thing.. he would walk thru doorways with me.. Mike used get so irritated .. but he was  my velcro.. I think the boys are moreso than the girls.... I was always stepping over him getting out of my chair or bed.. 

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That's my boy, too. He's laying on my feet as I type.

He's really quite a character. I've been leaving him out of his crate more and more when we aren't home. This evening as we were leaving to bring my oldest son's friend home I was about to close the front door behind us, but Chico let out his panic bark like "are you REALLY going to leave me here all by myself?!??!" and decided that he was going to come with us. He went out the door and into the back seat of the car.

How can I resist him? He loves us so.

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too funny, Ben my rottweiler does this too, I have a TINY half bath it used to be a small closet for a bedroom and in a remodel they turned the bedroom into a dining room and flipped the closet so it opened into the master bedroom and slapped a toilet and sink in it and it's so tiny you literally can wash your hands while sitting on the toilet and in the middle of the night I step over the rottie get in there and I immediately hit a wet nose with my elbow and lo and behold there stands a huge rottie with his head in between the sink and me so now I am pinned in the half bath, as soon as the toilet paper is picked up he goes back to bed and that means plop on the floor where I have to tell him to get up so I can get back in the bed. I thought it was just me, that picture of the dober outside the door - ain't got nothun on Ben squeezing in the bathroom, that dober dog is being polite and giving you space, hahahahahahaha

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I love that picture! We have a large bathroom, but Daymian needs to sit or stand at my feet.  I'll have to watch the leaving part to see if it's when I reach for the T.P.  

 I also like watching Daymian try to turn around in our very small spare room.  He backs up well any where else, but turns into a "U" shape to turn around between the bed & the wall in the spare room.  

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I love that picture! We have a large bathroom, but Daymian needs to sit or stand at my feet.  I'll have to watch the leaving part to see if it's when I reach for the T.P.  

 I also like watching Daymian try to turn around in our very small spare room.  He backs up well any where else, but turns into a "U" shape to turn around between the bed & the wall in the spare room.  

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OR...Perhaps all our dogs are sitting there saying..."Geez, when are YOU going to learn the proper place to do your business (outside)" 

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Freyjas dad - you might be right LOL! Tal too funny. Loki actually lays outside the bathroom door and waits he has learned the bath tub is not his friend and does not want to be near it.

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@Fryja'sDad... have missed your sense of humor..good to see you!!

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Oh yes, I have often wondered if DJ actually thinks she can get any closer to me.  She always has to maintain some sort of physical contact, even if it's just putting her paw on my foot.  If I get up during the night to go get a drink of water or go to the bathroom, I try my best to 'sneak out of bed' so I dont disturb her, and I can sometimes manage to get to the bathroom without causing her to jump out of bed, too....but when I open the door, there she is, lying in the hallway right up against the bathroom door, waiting for me. 

I actually find it endearing to know that my dog loves me SO MUCH that I cant make a move without her wanting to be a part of my life.  One of the many reasons that Dobermans have always been...and always will be...my favorite breed of dog.

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@Paul 

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Not trying to hijack, but I taught Shelbi to take a shower with me so that I would not have to man handle 100 lbs, we knew by her mom and dad that she would be a very big girl.  She is now 100 lbs and our routine has changed again since she has gotten so big: Now we get in the shower together, she gets cleaned and dried, then I put her out of the shower and I get clean and dry.  When I open the shower door she is laying down facing the door and I just get this look like SOOOO Sorry Mom, but this is as close as I could get.  I chuckle everytime I get out of the shower to that face.

Jeri & Shelbi

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Jerial, luckily I have a separate shower from the tub and it's glass, so I can take Chico in there with me, too. It's like wrestling a bull tyring to get him in there now (it used to be very easy), but once he's in there he's very compliant. I do have to shut the bathroom door or he'll take off like greased lightening before I can dry him off.

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Now these are my people.  Anyone who makes it a point to take a shower with their dogs the craziest bunch of people ever. I love the idea.  Axel insists on being in the bathroom like the rest of our crazy Dobes. This made my day.

 

Tess

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Tess, you will need to give it a try! LOL!

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Kaiser is leaning on me as I type at this moment.  He is always at my side and follows me around the house all day when I am home.  Peeing alone.....  what is that?  He is glued to my hip!! He wants to be part of everything.  Paul you are right, it is endearing that they give so much attention to us.

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This just happened.  I was charging my phone in the other room and I heard it ring.  Im on my laptop in my chair so I picked up the computer and took it with me to get the phone. I switched hands, grabbed the phone and smapped poor Axel on the nose with the computer lol.  He's okay and luckily so is my laptop. Just wanted to share lol.

 

Tess

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Well now you will have to make sure that he doesn't feel the need to watch the laptop to make sure it isn't a threat from here on out.

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Tess, I cannot tell you how many times I have tripped over or stepped on Chico because he's right under my feet most the time.

When I get out of bed if it's dark I have to feel around with my feet first to see where he is so I don't step on him...LOL!

They sure do put up with us...don't they <3

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I think everyone in this forum knows that I had a very bad accident due to my previous Doberman and my sons two other dogs. Basically I was walking them and I tripped and fell and broke my arm. I was on the ground waiting for help to arrive and guess who stayed right next to me until help arrived. Thats right, my wonderful Doberman Diesel. It was cold and I was probably in shock and he put his body right next to mine to comfort me and keep me warm. Now there were two other dogs with him and not one of them layed down next to me. Its not that the other two didnt love me, its just a different kind of love with a Doberman.  Its velcro and its okay with me.

 

Tess

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Great stories loved them all.. I have so many like that with my 2 dobies and now Missy.. I find a dobie and poodle by the bathroom door when I come out.. 

'The sad thing is when my Apollo died I was still stepping over to get out of my chair or bed for a long time..

I pet Missy as she is laying on the floor by the sofa.. when i stop I get tapped with her paw lol

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Yep, same here, both my dogs need to be able to see me in the bathroom, I keep telling them there is no magic escape route, I have to come back out the same way I went in. Either they don't believe me or it is the charmin thing or maybe they are trying to help me learn the proper place to go. Love these stories and these super people.

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Yes! Buddy does much of the same but if I am quick enough he'll wait outside the door. lol He is so stuck to me that sometimes he is so close to me I can't see him! He also believes he is a lap dog as well and always leans on us when chewing his toys.

I am a very affectionate person so I love this about him!

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Thats a dobie, Buddys Mom.. lol  Mine run in and check make sure I didnt escape out the window lol sometimes if I am showering and the door is closed I find them laying outside the door.

Bet

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michelle.. thanks for starting this thread.. and thanks for all the contributions... I'v enjoyed every single word!!