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 Hi,

  I have some bad news. My Sheba passed away last night.. I am so devastated and I don't know how I will ever get through this.. She was my first Doberman and she was such an amazing dog.. She was loving and very precious.. I am so heartbroken.  She had double pnemonia and lung cancer. I tried everything I could for her she was even determined wish made mor determined to get her well.. I feel like I failed her. Is that normal for me to feel this way. :(

 

  RIP Sheba!

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Of course it's normal.. everything you're feeling is normal.. but please...denise... remember, the fact that you loved her enough to let her go; was the greatest act of love and kindness you could show your sweet girl.

So many times we tend to hold on much too long and cause nothing but more suffering for these glorious creatures who's only mission in life is to please us. She showed you courage and dignity and taught you more than you realize right now.

Our hearts are aching for you.

 

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I am so sorry.

Yes, Lady Kate is correct saying that it's normal to feel like we just could have done more....but you did the most anyone could possibly do.  You loved Sheba and you know that she knew that. 

My condolences on your loss.  I know how it feels.

Ime so sorry . It's totally normal how you are feeling . Go gentle on yourself x love Paola x 

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I'm so sorry for your loss.  Sounds like she was a lucky girl to be loved by you.

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  so so sorry for the loss of your baby !

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So sorry for your loss . The pain is real and it hurts. It's the worst part of pet ownership but also the most honorable. Sheba is running free waiting for you. Hold your head up high. No regrets.         

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Yes, I know exactly how you feel.   When you love them, then you will miss them.  Try to remember all the good times you had together.

I can still remember when I was 12 and lost my first dog, this kind of love is ever lasting.

I also believe they will be all waiting for me when I reach the next level.

 

 

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One of our members who doesn't visit enough.. (* hint Rick Green) said one time.

"The only thing worse than losing them is never to have had them at all."

Profound.

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I'm so sorry to hear! That, I know is a very hard thing to go through. Your girl was very lucky to have you!

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Our family's hearts go to you!! We are so sorry to hear if your loss. My belief is that once a guardian always a guardian.  I'm sure your baby will always continue to watch over you.  My four legged boys send you kisses, snuggles and "airplane play paws".  

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         Sorry for your loss.  Even when you know the end is coming it is still hard to accept that your baby is gone.  You may not believe it now, but the good times and feelings you shared will one day replace the pain.  You were lucky to have each other.
 

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So sorry for your loss. You did everything humanly possible. Just remember the good times and that she was loved. I believe that you will be reunited some day. So give yourself time to grieve. It's ok. 

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OMG I am so so sorry !!!! it is normal to feel there was a stone left unturned but deep down you know that you did all you could but the pain of your loss is making you feel there had to be something else. It will lessen as time passes but you will most likely always feel there had to be one more thing you could have done, I do that will ALL my babies and I counted them up recently they total 53 now so I feel 53 times over that I missed something or did I do all I could; just know you did right by Sheba and take all the time you need to grieve they touch us so deeply.....

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 Thank you everyone for the kind words. My Sheba will always be my number one. I did slip into a  deep depression were I couldn't eat, sleep and all I did was cry. I would even lay on her bed and didn't want to move. I love her sent. Long story short my husband was extremely worried and he thought it would be best to get another puppy to fill the void. I was totally against it but a month later we did end up with two puppies (dobermans) brother and sister.Their names are Mango and Diva. They are sweet little puppies but I'm still not able to feel for them like I did Sheba. I don't miss treat them at all, I like them but that love isn't there. They are 4 months old so much fun and handful but I don't know it's just hard I just can't believe she is gone. I really want to love my puppies but I can't. It's just not there yet. I will show pictures soon of them. Thanks again for all the support. I just hope one day I can love my new additions and be the best doggie mom like I was with my Angel Sheba <3

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My husband brought home a kitten after the loss of my beloved cat Scamper one year he was so worried about my grief he actually tried to pick a kitten that looked like Scamper and that hurt my feelings, and I never truly loved Thumper the way I did Scamper I think my husband should have waited - as grief takes it's time with some people and the certain animals that touch their hearts. It was as if looking at Thumper reminded of the fact that I never had the chance to get over Scamper's loss. So I understand - but give yourself time to finish the grief process over Sheba then turn your love to the others you will love them in time - maybe not the exact same way but with the same depth - love is what it is it can't be stopped so these guys will worm their way into your heart, maybe not your soul like Sheba, but they will get you to love them :))

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Thank you!! I really do want to love these two but like you said I need time. My Sheba was everything to me.. Thanks again for your kind words

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also keep in mind they aren't there to "replace" sheba so don't feel any resentment that they are there and she is not; they are just looking for love and acceptance and to be a part of a family, you can't refuse that sort of trust. See them as the individuals they are and look for the joy they can bring each day. They should begin to fill the void that you feel, not replace just fill the void with life.

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yes sheba would want you to love again , even if it is a little soon after her passing it will all work out with time .

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I understand exactly.... I lost my best friend, Deu ( sounds like Dio ), yesterday. He waited until I got home to pass. He was poisoned and didn't go easy... He wasn't just a dog, he alerted me to my sugar dropping / blood pressure dropping, without training. He was only 5 months old and I keep wondering if there was something I could have done, something I should have seen... Still on the "who dun it?" mode.. I'm still in shock and at a loss... My kids have never dealt with death this close, so its hard.... But I am sure no dog will ever take Deu's place, but maybe in time, I could learn to love another fur baby... As will you..