Desperately need help

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over the last three months my pack of five has gone to a pack of two. This is taking an awful toll on Axel. Everyone knows how sensitive this breed is in general. Axel loved his pack as I did and misses them. He was adjusting to losing the beagle first ( she had CHF). He moped but he recovered. They all did but then my lab took a tumble, went lame and off to the vet. After a slew of test and some ultra sounds and blood work we opted to put him down. Turns out he was bad and so sick. He was full of cancer and bleeding internally. That was three weeks ago. Then two days ago Axel was whining, really whining. A sound I've never heard. Well my boxer was at the top of the stairs practically comatose. She was 13 and we knew her days were numbered. We put her down. It's just overwhelming for all of us humans but we will push on and support each other. Unfortunately Axel is so confused. My boxer was his rock. She was the alpha amongst the dogs. Now that she's gone , I can't get him to leave the porch unless I go outside with him . That's not a problem but it's so out of character. Now we have another dog and they are good with each other but they are both submissive. I'm hoping this works itself out but in the meantime my heart is broken for my loss and for Axels sadness. Any suggestions would be appreciated. 

Tess

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I don't have any suggestions but am so very sorry for all your losses and will send healing thoughts your way.

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Buy him new toys or enroll in new class, any kind just try to get him happy about something. Diversion tactics.

 So sorry for you all, must be devastating. We send big hugs.

 

Julia Michael and Bella

I can't remember if you are in L.A. (?) We like visitors and can offer off leash with same age Bella

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I am so sorry for all your heartbreak. When we lost Dobie, Paris was noticeably sad and different. I let her sleep with me and took her with me whenever I could, but then our kitten stepped up and started playing with her a lot, sharing food with her in the mornings, etc. that seemed to perk her up. So maybe play dates with other dogs would help get his mind off the losses? I also noticed that she was not even wanting to follow me outside yesterday, so I took her to the vet. She is taking rimadyl for joint pain now, and she is already acting better. Sometimes there is a simple health fix. I hope Axel bounces back from this, they are a sensitive breed, but they are also stronger than any dogs I've ever known. Dobie was tougher than any person or animal I ever knew, but if he had lost Paris, It would have been so hard for him. I wish you all the best in these hard times.

Condolences on all your loss - tough times!  

The dogs will adjust quickly after a little time. The biggest adjustment is figuring out who is alpha for what. One dog does not have to be the alpha - it can be shared. It is normal to be a little lost for awhile, but dogs don't continue to mourn for long - they really live in the present. 

 

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Condolences, boy that is tough.  Yes, everyone will mop for a while, and then it will sort itself out.  When we lost Chewie, Tiberius was lost and very sad for a while, for Chewbacka was his mentor.  Then we started the process of looking for another, we included Tiberius in the hunt, and found the perfect little girl for him, whom he picked out of the litter as the one he wanted.

Again so sorry for your losses, also sending healing prayer to you and yours.

 

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Thank you everyone for the nice thoughts and suggestions. Looks like the only solution for Axel and myself is time. I've been taking him and my other dog to the dog park so the scents of the other dogs can create a distraction instead of my own backyard. Don't know if it's working but it's just nice to get away. I will eventually add another to my pack but for now 2 is enough. 

Tess

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Tess, you might want to look into flower essences for Axel as well. There are some good ones for grief. You can just put them in his water, so it's easy to give. Bach Flower essences are pretty easy to find, and I know there's a couple that might be helpful. You should be able to find them in a health food store or online.

For anxiousness, try Rescue Remedy - which is a good all-around fixer-upper. It's a blend of five essences.

I'm so sorry for all you guys have been through.