Considering rehoming Mason

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I am at a point where I just don't know what to do. I was hoping someone might be able to advise me here. When I bought Mason I was working part time, married and life was good. In October, my husband left and now Im a single mom working full time. Things were so chaotic, I wound up putting both my dogs in a kennel attached to my barn and unfortunately, thats where they have lived. Mason is a wild man in the house, the two of them start playing and its insanity, he has no house manners and I am home so little. I just dont know what to do to make this situation better but it sucks for him. He is now one year old. Being a single mom, getting no child support and paying a mortgage.. the money is not there for a dog trainer. I feel awful "giving up on him" I wish I could magically make him aclimated to being indoors and CALM him down. Help me figure out whats the right thing to do here, I really do feel like Im doing the best I can right now with what I have.

I hate to say that there is no magical answer for you. Unfortunately for both you and the dog it is NOT FAIR to keep him with no time to devote to the proper way to raise a Doberman. It is totally understandable that Mason would be a wild man in the house given your situation. He has no training spends his entire day in the kennel. Dobermans  are not dogs to be left alone and not trained. They need a job to do and have to have appropriate training and exercise. If you would be willing to train him in your understandably little spare time that would be one thing. To be quite frank you have a lot of things going against you that prevent you from providing him a good home. You are just putting off the inevitable by going along with this routine. What would be worse is if you turned him into animal control or dropped him off at a shelter. You purchased or bought this puppy into your home and you owe it to the dog to find the appropriate home. If you were to relinquish him to a shelter it lets any Tom, Dick or Henry the chance to get the dog and do what they feel with it and believe me as someone that has been involved with similar cases it is not good. What I would suggest and I would be willing to help you find out is a proper Doberman rescue group that could take him on and find a worthy home. If you would like to send me a private email with your details I will start on it right away. You are doing what you can right now in your circumstance but it is not what is right or fair to the dog. I'm willing to help you in any way I can but need more details.

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Where are you located? I am a dog warden and work with tons of Dobe rescues. If you are close enough, I could take him and foster him until he finds a good forever home. If you are close to Washington Court House, Ohio (between Columbus and Cincinnati) give me a call and I'll be happy to help. Savannah 740-572-0650

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Rileysmama - if you can't work something out with someone like Bluenemo, have you contacted the breeder? A reputable breeder should be willing to take him back and find him a home. But also, please give us an idea about where you are located.

I have also offered as someone that has been involved with rescue to help. I just need to know where she is at and I will start working on it ASAP.

rgreen is very correct in the fact that you should try and contact the breeder. Any good reputable breeder would take there dogs back in a heart beat. I actually have in my contract should anything happen and the dog needs to be re-homed it is to come back to me. To many bad people and bad homes to take any kind of chances. This is a breed that is under scrutiny and if the keepers of the breed are not careful with what we do we stand a chance of loosing the right to own them all together.

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Sorry for not answering your questions sooner. We are located in Southern VA right at the NC border. I would never in a million years give him up to animal control or the humane society, I am passionately against them, especially in this county. (but thats another story).. The other day I took Mason to get groomed and nails trimmed and bought him a Gentle Leader collar. It was SO unbelievable how good it worked!!! it was like magic. It sort of gave me a little hope that with more work we can be okay. So maybe instead of giving me ideas for rehoming him I can get some advice on how to make him calm down inside and how to deal with problems such as the two of them playing rough and being crazy inside. I know its because he has a ton of pent up energy. I found someone who has a treadmill for sale cheap and I think I might try and get him on it (dog whisperer style hehe).

My gut says it will be so worth it in the long run to get through this but its really overwhelming. As for calling the breeder.. thats kind of humiliating.. its hard enough to admit on here to complete strangers how things have sort of fallen apart the last 6 months.

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Stuff Happens. It has happened to all of us at one time or another. As long as you never lose your resolve, you will find yourself coming out the other side a stronger more complete person. It does sound as if things are beginning to be better with Mason.

Ironically, I still have contacts in Virginia, having lived in Lynchburg for 9 years in the 80's, and in fact it was while I was there that I got my start with Dobes. In fact, I will be up in the Lynchburg area next weekend to look over a piece of property that I own in Amherst County on which I am having repair work done. I will then put it up for sale. I will also make time to go over to a Scout function that weekend to visit some old friends. I will be a 10 hour drive, but I have long been a road runner, having grown up in Texas.

If you suddenly find yourself unable to support the dogs, there is no shame in rehoming them, in fact people in the dog world will respect you for it.

Reading back thorough the postings, you talk about having the two dogs together in the house. Maybe you could try them one at a time so you could work with them a bit in the evening one on one, and sort of rotate them. I agree they keep each other company during the day.

Always remember this as well, no matter how stressed you get, we are always here to listen and to help in any way we can. You have friends here to whom you can talk (well text).

I agree with rgreen never feel ashamed for wanting to rehome. Your breeder if a good one should fully respect that. I as a breeder would gladly take that puppy back and be thankful that you shared. Life happens and right now it is a tough time for many people.

If you are wanting to try and keep him, there are plenty things that you can do but it takes time. You mentioned before that you work full time and the dog is in a pen during the day. To start with the treadmill is a fantastic idea, remember to start slow with it. Some dogs have a hard time getting used to using one. You also don't want to do to much I cant remember how old your dog is. Also make sure that the belt surface is the longer one, you don't want the short belt. You can find them pretty cheap on craigslist. I'm also looking for one for the dogs. I'm glad the gentle leader worked for you.

You have to remember that Dobermans are known as velcro dogs they need to be with the family. You have a younger male if I remember correctly, who is outside in a pen all day when you work. Naturally he is going to be excited to see you when you get home and be FULL of energy. Males take longer to mature then females and go through the adolescence period longer then females. I would spend a little bit of time letting him play when you got home. Throw a few balls, frisbee things like that to get out some of the energy. Dogs were born to run and need some time to stretch and do just that. I think rgreens idea of having one in the house at a time would be helpful. He will still want to be with you and still playful but at least the 2 of them would not be wrestling around. Training your dog will also give him a purpose and they love to work. Has your dog learned basic commands yet? sit, down, stand, heel, come?

I agree with you 100% on not giving him up to humane society, or the local pound. It would be nothing but a disaster. There are special doberman rescue groups however that are very careful where the dogs go and that would be an option. What they do is put the dog in a experienced dobe foster home one that works with the dog and helps it to become adoptable. The dog would stay with this person until a permanent home was found. They are very careful in placings, home visits are done and the prospective family carefully screened. If it comes down to it after you have contacted the breeder and you are thinking about this again please let me know I will help you.

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In your 1st post you said you were a single mom - are your children old enough to help with the dogs?  I read that rnd's daughter was in 4H with one of her dogs & that might be just what Mason needs.  As long as you supervise, getting the children involved might help them also.  My daughter was 2 when her father & I divorced, we also never received help from him, but even at that age giving Bree a little responsibility made her feel better.  If your's are older than that, Mason & the other dog could give them the focus they need right now.  For that matter, your dogs need "jobs" to make them feel better too...  4H, scouting (both girls & boys) & I'm sure there are other groups & clubs that could help...  I know that time is precious, money's tight & energy is non-existent but keep your chin up - we'll all help as much as possible.