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I never really used to think there was a big difference between males and females...well except for the obvious...

But lately I've been hearing there is a difference between males and females as far as what kind of companion they would make. From one source, it said females were more protective and males were more goofier. Another one said males get along better with female people and that females get along better with male people. Is this something you believe? My dog Jazmin is obviously a Female and she is very loving..but she definitely isn't the type of dog who would pick snuggling over playing ball. She shows her love by being excited to see me and always wanted to play. But my friend's pomeranian Moses who is a males, loves to cuddle and follow me everywhere and loves to be around females, he likes males too, but I know a pomeranian and a labrador are two very different breeds. Sorry I get off subject really easily. I just want to know if y'all heard anything about the difference between males and females and if so describe! i would love to hear your thoughts!

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As far as the sex thing goes, I have a Male Dobie and he seems to choose me (i am a male) over my fiance. It seems to be more about who spends more time with the dog and who takes the responsibility of training. I havent noticed him taking more of a liking to one sex over the other, but I did make sure to introduce him to, and let him play with as many different people as possible. He loves everyone, but when I am around, he tends to stick to me more than anyone. 

From my dog park experiences I have noticed that female dobermans tend to stay closer to their owners and are more protective of them, where the males, once unleashed, will take off to find a playmate for the afternoon. There is one dog in particular, that wouldnt let my dog near her owner at first without getting between them until she got to know us. She even made me feel uncomfortable around him.

All the male Dobermans I have met seem more funloving and easy going. I am sure that they make great protectors, but the females know how to keep a stranger on edge. I think it's generally accepted that female dobermans are better natural protectors. I would really like to see what other people have to say though.

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As a house dog, if you ever have a male that is intact and also have an intact female, you will have problems with the male marking. Some are reasonably easy to control and some are all but impossible. If you manage to get the upper hand before both are mature, then it can be somewhat controlled.

I would not recommend two males in the house and certainly not two intact mature males. If you have that situation, under no circumstances introduce an intact in season female into the mix. Obviously crates will help the situation, but you would still have to be careful not to have both males loose in the house at the same time.

Don't make the mistake of thinking that females will not mark. While it is not common, some females will do it. I have only had one, and she would go right in front of the crate of another female, every night if she were loose. She was the Alpha female and the other was her littermate sister and they did not get along at all.

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I've had a couple of male dobies in the past, but my preference is for the females simply because I feel that they are easier to housebreak.  That's just my opinion, however, and I'm sure that people that prefer males can tell you how much easier it is for them to housebreak their male puppies than it is their female puppies. 

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I have a male and female pup both under 6 months - obviously both intact as of yet. Raven has had maybe 2 accidents and tells me she has to go out 99% of the time. Cisco on the other hand (will just leave it at that)

Now as for companionship etc. I am the main caretaker - but Cisco is in love w/ my husband- I think he knows he is the alpha in the house and raven is my little lovebug. She is a total mommy's girl. My last female dobe hated all women except me and loved most men. My Akita - male loved all males and most females but when he didnt like you knew. I think it just all depends on the individual animal. They are all different.

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I have heard that Dobermans are 'one person dog'.. "Well" thought I.. "if that's the case.. it's going to be me." ( we're a competitive lot here!)

From the time we got Miss Priss, it's been ME who gives her a bath.. ME who combs her hair, brushes her teeth, trims her nails and makes sure she gets three healthy meals a day.. I even buy her new clothes from the web .. in her favorite color.. Royal Purple..

I rub her eyes just the way she likes,cup her ears in my hands when they're cold even give her tummy rubs when she rolls over and stretches those long ol' legs out and waves them in the air like a horse..

But guess what folks? She can hear Mike's truck a block away and I get royally DUMPED upon the sound! Whatever we're doing, where ever we are, once she hears HIM.. off she goes.. nub a blur, head bobbing back and forth, doing the DoberStrut..

"Dad Dad Dad, it's Dad.. look Mom.. it's Dad!"

So..

well.. that's it... so....

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That is what Cisco does to me Katie- and they do look back at you like "look mommy its dadddddddy do you see him?" Yes I do gee thanks Cisco!

Now Raven will stay by my side and she gets wiggly but its like "see mommy I like him and am happy he is home - but you are my mommy and i am stuck like glue to you!" At least one likes me better!

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sigh.. "What's a Mother to do??"

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I can't give any advice from ersonal experience but....We have an 11 month old female and she has been more work than any other dog we have ever owned.  We have struggled with her trying to be the dominant one and she can be independent sometimes (she loves being with us but when something else grabs her attention shes like I don't know you).  We are getting a male in 4 weeks and the breeder told me that males tend to be less dominant, more loving and needy.  I have also heard that males go to females and females go to males. I think Athena is more attatched to my hubby than to me but I would never really admit it.

I've always preferred females and have had several. They all have made wonderful family pets. As far as protective it really depends on the individual dog. They are no less or no more protective than the intact male I have right now. The one thing I do notice about the male is he is much more family oriented than the females. Meaning he does not have a favorite or prefer one of us over the other. He seems to love all of us the same where as the girls have always picked me for their favorite due to my training involvement with them. This doesn't mean the girls do not like the others in the family they will go sit and want to be petted by anyone. If I'm still up they wait for me to go to bed, if I go to bed earlier than everyone else they go with me.

Males and females dogs preferring one or the other sex is irrelevant to the male female owner factor. You could hear this both ways with each dog. I think with anything it depends on who puts the most time in and who the dog respects the most.

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I agree w/ the respect aspect... I am to Cisco his caregiver for the most part, but i think he "respects" Josh as the pack leader and that is why he "likes" him more~

I have always been a male dog owner for the most part- this is the first female i have had that I said ok i get why people love female dogs.... she is the most affectionate sweet thing in the world!

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i wouldn't suggets a male if you already have a male in the house...Rocky is 100% all boy,  he loves to play rough,  has no interest in cuddling but does always want near just not touching.   He's protective yet not agressive to anyone.  I have always had male dogs and just seem to prefer that.  Rocky has no preference or favorite over me and Tye.  He's perfectly happy with either of us and makes no un-usually fuss other than the normal hello when one of us comes or goes.

 

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My story is like Kate's.  I couldn't love Ginger any more than I do or be more attentive and affectionate to her than I am.  I refer to her as "mommy's baby" and she loves the attention. However, my husband is the one she pines for. He is the one she first showed her "smile" to when he would come home from work.  She'll do it for me but only sparingly. She loves to sit with him in the overstuffed chair. When he gets up to give me a hug before I leave for work, she gets so jealous (not in an aggressive way, but just very funny).  She voices her displeasure and as soon as John sits back down, she immediately jumps up in the chair with him and leans into his chest.  My husband teases me and says she is "daddy's girl."     She is such a stinker, but my baby just the same.

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Thank You for all of your responses ;) Right now I live with my parents and I want a doberman when the time is definitely right but I'm just wondering if I should get a male or a female? I know everydog is it's own individual but I'm still confused. I want a lovable dog for sure and I want to be it's main care provider but I want my future dobe to love everyone but be aware who its master is. I just don't know if a male would be more fun loving or a female. Mhmm?

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They are like kids in a way - they will always want the 'parent' that isn't there as much.  If you are home all day with him then of course he/she will be excited when Dad comes home because they haven't seen him all day.  If it were the opposite it would be YOU they were happy to see.  They know who their 'person' or 'people' are,  trust me...:) It's not that they love one of you less

 

A friend of mine told me a great story about her daughters this summer.   They both swim and at swim meets she always noticed them looking around constantly for their Father.  She asked them on the way home one time why they never looked around for her?  He oldest looked at her like she was completely stupid and simply said 'doh, why would we look for you? You're always here! 

 

I think the concept is the same with dogs......

 

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Lori, I think you hit it on the head!

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Missdoglover - I think the consensus is that either one will serve your needs. My first female was the more dominant and Hans, my first male was her backup. However, until recently, Red was the dominant one and Princess his backup. She now seems to be taking charge. But that I think is in recognition of his illness.

Either gender will be loving yet protective. Although protective, they are accepting of those whom you welcome, and will let those who make you uncomfortable they are not welcome.

I have told a story before, but it has been a while, so it may bear repeating. While in Virginia, I met a family that I became very friendly with (and I still am) that consisted of the parentls and their three kids, the youngest a boy and the two older kids were girls. There was an acquaintance in our circle a man who was noted as a "hugger", whose attention was not welcome. My sister was up visiting once and I had some friends including this family over. The hugger somehow learned of the gathering and came uninvited. He was allowed in, not wanting to make a scene.

After everyone had left, my sister informed me that she had seen Lori (my friends middle daughter who at the time was mid-teens) coming out of the kitchen with her arms full, and the hugger moved in to block her coming out and putting his arm out. Lori deftly ducked down below his arm and scooted on through.

About a year later I was over at my fiend's home. They had a female red Dobie (Mandy) whom I had given to them and she was a little over a year old. The hugger came by unannounced to supposedly ask my friend a question. When he came through the door, Mandy who had been laying down quietly, suddenly got up, put her self directly in front of Lori and raise her hackles up, laid her ears back, let out a deep gutteral growl and displayed for the unwelcome guest all of her pearly whites, and she was definitely not smiling. The unwelcome guest left immediately, and Mandy laid back down and went to sleep.

My friend commented to me in wonder, "she has just earned her keep for the rest of her life". This is not uncommon for a Dobie, for as I said they read your reactions, in this case that of Lori who suddenly was uncomfortable and Mandy read that and reacted accordingly.

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Oh, nice story, I'm glad you retold it.  They are amazing, aren't they?

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Yes, that is an awesome story.

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Most dogs will do this... just not to this extent. They might bare their teeth or let out a growl... but wont get feisty until there is actual danger. Others may attack on site and only give a short warning growl as soon as the person walks in... no time for good-byes!!!
The first might be considered laid back, and the second aggressive, but we've got to remember, these are other reactions that we can get and not every dobe is going to protect so calmly and assertively.

I think that the reason females would be more protective is because they have the natural maternal instincts programmed in. Who wants to mess with the protective mamma dobe? "Not me, not me!" lolz

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I like "the boys"! I have always had males(neutered of course) on the other hand my mom likes females she has never had a male dog.I did have 1 female dog who I loved dearly she passed away at the age of 13 to cancer but I think I will always have males.

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Man I don't know why I'm still confused to which one I want. My dog Jazmin is only interested in playing ball, So it's kinda hard to tell whether she likes females more or males. she gets along with everyone...She doesn't have an agressive bone in her body but she isn't the most affectionate dog either, but that's just her personality. She always wants to play ball. She never quits lol :)

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Well if JAzmin is still going to be in your life I would get a male- sometimes 2 of same sex will not get along...

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Jazmin is a family dog. When I get my doberman i will be for surely be out of my parent's house by then.

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oh... I'm not that nice... I'm taking Skye wit me!! lolz

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what do you mean by nice? it's my family dog. :) I can't just take her. I love my Jazmin.

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oh... my dad said Skye was to be my family dog... but she kinda "chose" me. My dad told me if I didn't take her... he would go insane... when I'm not at home she gets "huffy" and refuses to do anything until I get home... so even if I didn't want to... not the case... I would have to.