Sweet 3 month old puppy to re-home ONLY to a great home. She needs a better home.

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Ever since I got her, I have had nothing but stress, no help from my husband and slacking on my homework and tests. I would get up 5-6 times a night to take care of her, play with her, feed her, train her, pay attention to her, everything. I wanted to make sure she was happy, healthy and loved.

My husband told me to get this puppy, but I never wanted a puppy, I am not a puppy person and always adopted older dogs. We took back a 2 year Doberman because my husband was upset that he was hard to train. Even though I wanted to stick it out, he wouldn’t let me and it caused a lot of fighting so I took him back.

Well now the same thing with this puppy. He promised me he would help me and doesn’t. His excuse is he pays for everything and works so he doesn’t have to. I’m a stay at home wife and I have is school, cleaning, cooking, taking care of the house and a dog; so my life is not hard.

We have been fighting for the last 3 days and today it got really bad today because the way he played with her. He plays with her really rough to the point she yelps and puts her tail between her legs. I told him to stop and go easy but he yells at me saying “well you wanted me to play with this damn puppy right?!”

I cannot keep this puppy anymore.

I am not asking for a re-homing fee on here because I know everyone here loves Dobermans. I want her to go to a great home where the wife and husband won’t argue and fight and both people will take care of her 50/50. I want her to be happy and be loved and not a burden.

I love Kira I really do and that is why I am looking to re-home her. I am also going to be looking for a place on my own. I am greatful this puppy made me see the true colors of my marriage and to be honest a not  so great husband. I can take emotional abuse, bu when it starts to be taken out on a animal, Im out!

I cannot keep Kira and take her with me becuase when I move I will be staying with the only person I have here and they don’t allow any animals.

I live in El Centro, California. It’s 2 hours east of san diego, and 2 hours west of Yuma, AZ.

I want Kira to grow up with love and be happy and not be in a hostel home with people who "rough" house with a dog liek this. I am NOT taking her to a shelter. Just thinking of her going from a warm bed to a kennel outside in the cold makes me upset.

I realy wish I could keep her. I really do and I hope you all understand.

If anyone can help please email me. I know someone of you may hate me, some may shame me, But I know in my heart am I doing the right thing after what happened today.

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Estioko04:  Please see my reply under your original thread ("Am I Overreacting...").

So very sorry that your situation has come to this.  No one reading your entire original thread would hate or shame you, I think.  

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Dear Estio,

We are all here in support of you in this time of stresss, and many here also have thought they would go crazy over trying to raise a pup. You are not alone.

You probably are making an emotional but good decision about yours and Kiras future; it is always hard to admit that dreams sometimes die.

There is a Doberman club in San Diego Aztecdpc.com, also dobiesos.net, 1 near San Jacinto, Riverside county.... there are also a couple Dobie rescues in los Angeles area. I found these in just a few moments looking online. Please, Please give her to a rescue and not to just a semi-desirable owner because they are nearby. She will be adopted right away, with all her health records to show now that she is well. There are dog transporter networks.

Kira is a doll of a puppy!! She has probably picked up on the tension in your apartment. Any dog can respond negatively to vibes and emotions they don't understand. 

Good Luck,

 Julia

 woofs from Bella 

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WNCDobes: I did. And I do love her a lot and I went through so much trying to get her healthy and taking care of her.  It sucks because I put in all this hard work but I know this is the best for both of us. Thank you for everything.

principessa bellisima: Yes, I know she can feel the tension because she follows me EVERYWHERE and does not want to be alone with my husband. I believe he did something to her while I was gone because she shakes for no reason as if she is cold, but I can see it in her eyes something is wrong. I know puppies are hard work, that’s another reason why I am in my 30’s and have no kids. I can’t do babies or puppies. But I did everything I could for her. I mean he had a 3 day weekend and he spent from 9am -2:30 am on the xbox playing that stupid game and when I went to the store and came back there was pee and poop on the floor and she was chewing on my shoes and destroyed my flip flop. I ask him what the hell and he replied I played with her for 5 mins, I am tired. She knows where to pee and what not to chew so that’s your fault. I got so mad!!! I would tell you what I said but it’s not forum friendly.

It’s late right now but I will look into those tomorrow when it’s day time. Thank you for the advice. I know about Aztec dobes. I was going to adopt from there but I found the other dog at the SDHS.

Thank you guys and I will keep that all in mind.

And if you know anyone, please let me know.

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From what you have said, you are making the right, difficult decision rather than the easy one, it would be easy for you to keep her and add stress to your relationship and perhaps a sub-optimal life for the pup. I don't think anyone will think badly of you for that.

But yes please do go through a rescue as they'll not only provide home checks etc but will also provide rescue backup if Kira's new home doesnt work out at some point. Good luck!

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Hello everyone. It has been a rough month. SO here is my final and last update.

Kira is gone into a new home. She has a big backyard, she sleeps inside on a bed and is eating very well. I called Doberman Aztec Rescue in San Diego and one of the ladies helped me and came and got her last weekend. It was hard. I didn’t cry while they were here, but as soon as they left I balled like a freaking baby. I still have not washed the blanket that Kira slept in and I smell it every night before I go to bed. I know it can sound like torture to myself, but I really didn’t want to let her go but I know this is for the best because our home was toxic.

As for myself, I tried to put in paper work for the divorce but am having complications. But I am moving this month back to my old city and when I get settled Me, myself and only I am goin to get a older Doberman from the same rescue. We aregeed it’s not me it’s him ad she wouldn’t mind letting me adopt a older dobi.

As for my husband, I ruined his video game and the console, I have boycotted doing dishes, cleaning house, cooking and keeping track of his fantasy football stuff and I accidentally dropped his Iphone. Sooooo….I know it may sound harsh, but women cook, clean and play wifey because we love our men, not because it’s expected or a requirement and he’s now understanding that.

I am still pretty hurt about Kira. I miss her so much and sometimes when I am sitting here I hear her collar and I can hear her whining. The other day I came home from the gym and expected to see her, but then I remembered. It hurts a lot. But like I stated before, you can be mean to mean and I will handle it. But if you are mean to ANY animal espically a puppy, that’s it no more. I am glad Kira made me see his true colors because I didn’t know he could be that cold and I am now rethinking everything. I will miss her.

I want to Sincerely thank all of you for your thoughts, input and help and everything. Bless all of you and thank you so much. Please keep kira in your prayers I will.  

Hello everyone. It has been a rough month. SO here is my final and last update.

Kira is gone into a new home. She has a big backyard, she sleeps inside on a bed and is eating very well. I called Doberman Aztec Rescue in San Diego and one of the ladies helped me and came and got her last weekend. It was hard. I didn’t cry while they were here, but as soon as they left I balled like a freaking baby. I still have not washed the blanket that Kira slept in and I smell it every night before I go to bed. I know it can sound like torture to myself, but I really didn’t want to let her go but I know this is for the best because our home was toxic.

As for myself, I tried to put in paper work for the divorce but am having complications. But I am moving this month back to my old city and when I get settled Me, myself and only I am goin to get a older Doberman from the same rescue. We aregeed it’s not me it’s him ad she wouldn’t mind letting me adopt a older dobi.

As for my husband, I ruined his video game and the console, I have boycotted doing dishes, cleaning house, cooking and keeping track of his fantasy football stuff and I accidentally dropped his Iphone. Sooooo….I know it may sound harsh, but women cook, clean and play wifey because we love our men, not because it’s expected or a requirement and he’s now understanding that.

I am still pretty hurt about Kira. I miss her so much and sometimes when I am sitting here I hear her collar and I can hear her whining. The other day I came home from the gym and expected to see her, but then I remembered. It hurts a lot. But like I stated before, you can be mean to mean and I will handle it. But if you are mean to ANY animal espically a puppy, that’s it no more. I am glad Kira made me see his true colors because I didn’t know he could be that cold and I am now rethinking everything. I will miss her.

I want to Sincerely thank all of you for your thoughts, input and help and everything. Bless all of you and thank you so much. Please keep kira in your prayers I will.