Putting out feelers regarding our 4 month old puppy

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Hi everyone. We recently joined this site when we got our dobe, who is now going on 4 months of energetic age. Griff's ears are still in posts, he's growing TALL (all legs and feet), pure joy. Doing well in puppy class, learning who is the boss (that's my wife)...but...

This past Monday my wife came back from her doctor with news that she'll need to undergo treatment (hard for me to write what 'it' is while keeping her privacy), and I'm due to be out on a ship in about 3-4 weeks and gone for about 4 months. Besides the typical potentially-life-changing issues, we also have the puppy to consider. He's at that age where he's already showing how strong he will be, and while my wife can handle him, we both know that once I'm out to sea, there is a potential that she will not be able to care/train for him as well as she can now.

So we need to see about finding him a new home with new owners that can give him all the love that we do right now. Talking to his breeder is a no-way. Apparently, when my wife emailed the breeder a few weeks ago for a bit of extra information, she got back what she said was a snippy letter that 'no other puppy buyer asked me those questions' and that the correspondence would end there. Sad, since we really thought we had a good rapport. Oh, well.

We are in TX. The puppy is AKC limited reg, already over 30#, a really nice, sweet guy with the best grumbly noises. Good with other dogs (our two other dogs are old, and about as active as mold, so my wife can deal with them when/if her treatments leave her tired). My wife is really upset since she feels guilty that we cannot keep an energetic puppy at this time. Her mother already plans to visit her if she needs the help and I'm out to sea, and I KNOW that my MIL, while a wonderful woman, is also 84 and will not be able to walk this puppy. I have to leave on a ship; we need the money, otherwise I would prefer to stay with my wife during the latter part of her treatments.

I also checked already with rescue groups, but they are swamped with adult dobes that really could use a home, and none are close to us anyway (we're about 5 hours from Houston). I know it's usually bad form, but we know we can't recoup what we paid for him, but to be honest, the funds could go a long way towards what my insurance will not cover.

If anyone knows someone who is looking for a really nice puppy, please let us know. We will not let him go to anyone, but by the same token feel that he's at a perfect age where he can adapt to a new home easily.

 

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Oh, my heart goes out to you all. Prayers for your wife and you as well, and some for Griff (great name!) to find a perfect home. I think you are doing the most loving, responsible thing you can for Griff, so BIG kudos to you both for deciding to find him another home.

I watch "Rescue Me!" online, and Texas does have the most Dobermans looking for a home in the nation. Are any rescues willing to "vet" prospective owners for you, while you keep Griff in your home? They can do a really good job of weeding out folks who would not be suitable for your pup.

Right now, I have an elder Aussie who's not up to dealing with a pup, so I have to wait and take care of Gabe - otherwise, Griff is a wonderful looking dog, and I would love to have one like him!

 

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Thank you for reaching out.. and bless you and your wife. We are so grateful for your service, I hope there is someone in the Texas area who will repay your sacrifice and dedication in kind.

Prayers for a perfect rehome.. and prayers for a good outcome for your wife's upcoming surgery and rapid recovery.

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Hi, 

I am very interested in possibly adopting Griff. Can we set up some time to talk either on the phone or via email? 

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You guys are great. Frankly, I thought I would get snarky 'well, keep him!' responses.

My wife is a trooper. I'm following her lead on how much I should worry about her, but I've long admitted that she's the Glass Half Full With Really Good Scotch kind of girl. Without getting into too much detail, this is a relapse of an issue (this is what she calls it) that we thought was over and done years ago. We all know she'll do okay, but we know, like last time, it'll be months before we know the specifics and since Griff's at such an impressionable age, she's worried that she won't be able to handle him. He's really good, albeit a bit on the rambunctious side.

If past history is the same (since she reminds me that she's not as young as she was 'back then') she would be the first one to hang onto him, but she worries that she won't be able to continue the training that he's already signed up for (we are/were signed up for puppy I and II, see if he can manage the STAR puppy 'thing' and CGC test; yep, we're optimistic).

And I appreciate the well wishes, but I'm not military (not completely). I'm a merchant marine and while I do sail on the pre-position fleet supplying our troops, I'm not active duty. I just am not brave enough.

If I can get a rescue group or even someone who will take him in and provide him the home/attention/chewtoys that he needs, I'm sure me and my wife can hang onto him until he gets an even better home than ours (we're not perfect, but we love our pets).

 

 

 

 

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Please be very careful about who you give Griff to. Even folks who contact you through this site. Better to be on a rescue's waiting list or as a "courtesy listing". There are nasty people out there who will purposely mislead you and make Griff's life a living hell. Do not let him go intact. Not everyone in the world loves Dobermans the way we do!

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I hope you find a wonderful home for your baby.  Dobes have such wonderful personalities.  Our baby just passed away a week ago and we are heart broken without him.  Our Bacca was black just like your little guy.   Good luck and I hope your wife is healthy soon.  Could you maybe find someone to foster him until things settle down?  I wish we were closer we would offer to take care of him for you.  

Did you contact the breeder you got her from? That should be your very first call - even if they were difficult before. Any reputable breeder will take back any dog they produced at any time for any reason.

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Truly sorry :( we would take the little dude but we are in Cali and have a 5 month male of our own :( I was going to say maybe you should ask a friend or family member to foster him till things are settled down at home ? That's what I would do :) and yes be very  careful on who has him you don't want anyone harming your little guy! I wish you all the best